Monitoring your self-criticism would allow you to gain a deeper understanding if its inner workings and of your self-perceptions.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy approaches have been effective in reducing self-criticism and consequently lead to an increase in self-esteem and self-confidence. However, before initiating therapy, one needs to assess and monitor the self-criticism via a log.
Complete a daily charting with the headings of situation, self-critical thoughts, consequent feelings and behaviors, and rational responses. This would enable you to provide your therapist with essential information. If you have decided to use self-help only, having a log is even more important, because it is a crucial partner in your self-improvement.
The situation would include what happened to bring out your self-criticism. Self-critical thoughts would include the thoughts these situations elicited. Consequent feelings and behaviors include what came later in the form of your feelings and behaviors, after the self-criticism.
The rational response is what would come later, when you eventually begin to work on dealing with the self-criticism.
Here’s an example of what the log would look like.
Situation | Self-Critical Thought | Feeling | Behavior | Rational Response |
The project I was working on wasn’t approved. | I am good for nothing. I couldn’t get a project right. | Angry at myself, withdrawn, demotivated, sad | Couldn’t concentrate on further work, left work early to have a drink |
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Maintaining this log would provide you with a broader picture of what leads to your critical thoughts and what comes after. It would help when you finally get to working on self-criticism.
Oskar Blakstad (Mar 27, 2016). Monitoring Self-Criticism. Retrieved Sep 29, 2023 from Assisted Self-Help: https://staging.explorable.com/en/e/monitoring-self-criticism